Debate Versus Dialogue

I came across an outstanding article published online by the Harvard Business School, entitled Moving Beyond Debate: Start A Dialogue by Mark Gerzog. I recommend reading the article in its entirety.

At the end, Gerzog provides a table that really distinguishes the key differences between debate and dialogue. Reading through the article, you will quickly discover that Gerzog is a heavy proponent of healthy dialogue.

Here are the key differences he lists in his table. It is worth a reflective read to see which side of the line you may fall.

DEBATE: Assuming that there is a right answer, and that you have it
DIALOGUE: Assuming that many people have pieces of the answer

DEBATE: Combative: participants attempt to prove the other side wrong
DIALOGUE: Collaborative: participants work together toward common understanding

DEBATE: About winning
DIALOGUE: About exploring common ground

DEBATE: Listening to find flaws and make counter-arguments
DIALOGUE: Listening to understand, find meaning and agreement

DEBATE: Defending our own assumptions as truth
DIALOGUE: Revealing our assumptions for reevaluation

DEBATE: Seeing two sides of an issue
DIALOGUE: Seeing all sides of an issue

DEBATE: Defending one's own views against those of others
DIALOGUE: Admitting that others' thinking can improve one's own

DEBATE: Searching for flaws and weaknesses in others' positions
DIALOGUE: Searching for strengths and value in others' positions

DEBATE: By creating a winner and a loser, discouraging further discussion
DIALOGUE: Keeping the topic even after the discussion formally ends

DEBATE: Seeking a conclusion or vote that ratifies your position
DIALOGUE: Discovering new options, not seeking closure

Read the article Moving Beyond Debate: Starting A Dialogue

SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT: Is there ever an appropriate time for debate?

SOMETHING TO TALK ABOUT: Which difference listed above resonates with you?

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Tim Milburn
Student Leadership Trainer & Tool Maker
www.studentlinc.net